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Can someone explain me USA obsession with prom and similar school rituals? (lemm.ee)

submitted 5 months ago by FookReddit69@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I just don't get it... Why is that important, especially for kids now, that feel like they need to do a YouTube video asking for a date or doing some meme stuff. Some teens even hire the hottest celebrity or ask them to appear in their prom? This is so bizarre for me, all that just for a frivolous night.

In my country prom was a thing but nowhere near as theatrical, I didn't went to either my prom trip or the party. Also skipped half of my middle school trips.

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[–] kevincox@lemmy.ml 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

FWIW I think it is actually a valuable social skill to be encouraged to ask someone out to prom. A lot of people don't have many similar experiences throughout their lives.

[–] FookReddit69@lemm.ee 4 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I've never been with anyone in my life. I highly doubt it has to do with not going to a dumb party though.

[–] protist@mander.xyz 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)

You might consider what's driving you to put people down who are having fun

[–] kevincox@lemmy.ml 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I don't really mean literally to practice asking people out. But there are times in your life where you need to ask people for things. It is hard to get over the anxiety, risk of social embarrassment and practice showing confidence (even if you are not). These are valuable skills in all sort of social circumstances.

[–] lolcatnip@reddthat.com 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I asked sometime to the prom and got turned down. All I learned was that rejection hurts a lot more than I would have thought.

[–] FookReddit69@lemm.ee -1 points 5 months ago

Yeah, being rejected can destroy someone's confidence