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Men, are you physically affectionate with other male friends? (eg, hugging, snuggling, playful wrestling, etc). If you aren't, do you wish it was more socially acceptable if it isn't in your culture? (pawb.social)

submitted 3 months ago by Wahots@pawb.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] where_am_i@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

Hugging friends -- yes and easy. Snuggling -- never. And this doesn't apply only to men, it applies to women whom I don't find attractive as well.

Physical affection from someone I don't find attractive is super akward. Now I'm a cis straight male, so this principle applies to essentially all men.

P.S. OP, if you like more actual physical affection from your male friends, it's maybe just time to come out of the closet. This is lemmy, nobody is really straight around here anyways

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 2 points 3 months ago

Oh, I'm quite open and queer, but I know that not everyone is. Different cultures around the globe handle things differently, too. But I even see the difference on the more local scale, where some friends are quite physically affectionate, whereas others hug me like a frozen fence post, haha.

It's interesting that women generally are fairly physically affectionate with friends, but men kind of run the gamut depending on family and social culture. And yet, even some of the most awkward are super physically affectionate with animals and pets, sometimes even at the same event.

I find stuff like that fascinating. Cultures evolve and change, with some aspects being more seasonal, and others more glacial. :)

[–] lemming934@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Snuggling -- never. And this doesn't apply only to men, it applies to women whom I don't find attractive as well.

What about nonhuman animals? Do you dislike cuddly dogs?

[–] where_am_i@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 months ago

If they smell, no way. A cuddly cat can be enjoyable