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No shade, that’s cool. IDGAF what you look like once I know you, and that you are in tune with the emotion of the situation.
Paraphrasing a folk singer I respect here, but “I used to cry when needed, I can’t cry for the life of me anymore as an adult.”
Tears communicate that either I’ve fucked up, or there’s something I legit misunderstood, and I need to take a step back.
In some ways, I envy your ability to do that. Professional me doesn’t scree around, personal me rather wishes I could cry it out once in a while.
I’ve spent a lifetime fixing my inclination to escalate at the first sign of conflict, and…. It’s been brutal. I’m thrilled to mostly be gentle these days, but it still requires work.
You never gave into the BS.