I've been happily posting away here on two accounts since just before the Great Migration, and have no problem being openly a woman on the internet. Up to and including correcting people who assume I'm a guy, and even occasionally acknowledging the existence of periods.

Which, honestly that was a bad tactic back on Reddit, my inbox was a nightmare. But here it's gone much better, so thank you to anyone who ever received one of my corrections with good grace!

It's also brought quite a few DMs my way from other women who try to stay more anonymous with their posts, a choice I can completely understand.

So today on International Women's Day I just want to wave hello to the other women out there, even if you don't want to break cover and wave back. Anonymous or not, cis or trans, I see you out there and you're killing it.

This may break the community rule on encouraging discussion, if nobody wants to out themselves to say hello back. So I guess I should also ask a question.

Um...anyone else using it as an excuse to treat themselves today? I've given myself the day (mostly) off work and am doing some fun gamedev all afternoon instead, then we're planning a takeaway tonight. Easily pleased, perhaps, but sounds good to me 😄

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[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I never felt weird posting to Reddit that I was a woman, and never got any weird dms or anything.. no clue why, just luck I suppose. Or could have to do with where/how I shared that info.. either way I was openly asexually female for the entire 5 years I had an actual account. Worst that happened was a bit of banter with a user about whether or not boobs float (something I honestly don’t know); they told me to go check and report back and I said their man boobs would be more likely than mine to float since I’m thin and not well endowed.

But I’ve been more vocal about it here because Lemmy is an absolute sausage party, and it’s so so so so obvious. It hasn’t been weird here at all either, but there also aren’t a lot of conversations in which I feel it necessary to divulge (probably because it’s a sausage party, so those sorts of conversations don’t happen as much)

I wasn’t using that as a treat myself excuse, but I’m shopping for a fancy new bed frame (with headboard storage, power strip, lights, and drawers underneath to keep my cats out) and it was gunna be a birthday gift to myself, but now it’s a women’s day/birthday gift 🤭

[–] thegiddystitcher@lemm.ee 16 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You definitely dodged some weirdos over there, well done!

I think from conversations I've had, a lot of women had such bad experiences on Reddit they decided to go anonymous on here and I wonder if that's actually why it seems like such a "sausage party" in the first place 🤔

Oh well, mostly irrelevant really, as you say it's not like it constantly comes up! Happy birthday and congrats on that fancy new frame, it sounds awesome!

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Hey thanks! I got a really high quality ultra plush mattress for myself last year, and it’s about time it had a nice frame to go on. Plus then I can use the old frame and decent mattress in the spare room, and give away the shitty futon that’s in there. Win win.

I was around the internet back in the pre-social media days of “tits or gtfo” and all, so I know I dodged a firestorm of bullets. 😳

I saw some sort of demographic poll a while back about the makeup of fedi users, and it was something like 10% being female? I suppose that’s probably a self-selected response type thing and probably not super accurate depending how they went about finding participants, and It’s probably also highly dependent upon the instance, but that’s why I said it’s a sausage party. Also every post about ladies things is like 80% “I’m a guy but”, which is fine and all but.. feels sausagy.

[–] thegiddystitcher@lemm.ee 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

We're middle aged and still make our guests sleep on an airbed on the floor of the craft room, so two actual decent beds in one house sounds so grownup to me you wouldn't believe 😅

In our defence though we both work from home and I need somewhere to keep all this yarn, whereas house guests are relatively rare. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 8 months ago

Haha I feel that’s pretty normal tbh. Most people I know don’t have spare space. Couch or floor or too bad get a hotel. Maybe they have a hide-a-bed or a morris bed, but usually not.

It’s more that I can’t bear to get rid of stuff “just in case I need it, you never know when something is going to happen”. Poverty mindset. I actually almost never have people over and I don’t really want them over often, tho one of my close friends lives a few hours away so she stays sometimes.

And if I can get rid of something junk and still maintain the things my mind has deemed necessary backup, all the better. Tho I’ll probably disassemble part of the frame to store it all upright when not in use.. I move stuff around a lot as I remodel.

I have a plant grow tent for year-round veggies in that room, and can use it as an office too, so not totally wasted space when not in use. It’s a big, old, much in need of expensive repair sort of place that I got cheap years ago, and it’s getting improved as I go.

[–] Risk@feddit.uk 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I said their man boobs would be more likely than mine to float since I’m thin and not well endowed.

Jokes on you! I'm a man and I'm also thin and not well endowed.

That means the same thing for men as it does for women, right?

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Depends; does it float? 😜

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world -3 points 8 months ago

Endowed male here, ummm it kinda floats as long as it's not hard.