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Why would one crave pleasure, food and entertainment when they should be productive and how does one go about stopping it? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 10 months ago by Subject6051@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I should be studying right now, but everytime I sit to study, I can't sit there long enough, I want food even though I am not hungry, I want to watch TV/youtube, self-pleasure... etc...

No matter what productive work I want to do, I will try to not do that and do something which gives me momentary pleasure. I want to masturbate, eat lots of food even though I am not hungry while watching TV/Youtube and I don't seem to be able to break the cycle and it's destroying me. How can I break the cycle and do something good for a change instead of pleasuring myself in the moment meaninglessly?

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[–] BangersAndMash@lemmy.world 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I got some counselling, then on the anti depressants, they were the first step - let me see why I should do something different, but then I got onto the ADHD meds and they let me focus. It took a while, had to work out what worked for me but once I got it it was the answer I needed. They're not the solution for everyone, but if you haven't tried at least talk to someone about it.

[–] Subject6051@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago (3 children)

unfortunately, this might not seem like a great solution for my problem. I have been on meds and I still can't perform and I didn't notice anything getting better while I was having those meds.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 months ago

How long did you take the meds for? How long ago did you stop?

[–] TheGalacticVoid@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

To add on to the other commenters, medication alone doesn't usually solve things. Rather, it makes you more able to implement solutions to your problems. It's why therapy is pushed so hard.

You could also be on the wrong meds. It can take a lot of experimentation before they work.

[–] jeffw@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Even if we’re just talking antidepressants, it usually takes a number of tries to find the right fit. The same thing applies to ADHD meds.

Also, medication is most effective in conjunction with therapy.