Asklemmy

I personally would always prefer saying boy girl man woman over male and female. Whener I first saw it used it was always in a negative context like "young black male" in regard to some crime to give the opposite example. Just like in French I think it's weird to refer to humans with male and female, although accurate of course, as I would only expect it in for animals.

My daughter can be pretty offensive. Quite the potty mouth for an 8 year old.

This explains it pretty well https://callmebymygender.top/

Female as an adjective is inoffensive everywhere, but you will run into problems in some contexts because its definition is currently in flux and different people will mean different things by it.

Female as a noun has the same changing definition deal, and also some online misogynists use it as a pejorative. It isn't one, but they use it as one. As a corollary, some others on the internet have chosen to be offended by the term.

It's as offensive as "black" is. If you call someone female that's fine. If you call someone a female, you're going to look like an incel.

I understand your pain. My home language doesn't even have separate words for woman and female, or male and man.

Not with proper hygiene.