What’s really rich about Meta and Zuckerberg’s incessant complaining about being restricted by Apple’s rules for third party software on Apple’s platforms is that Meta doesn’t allow third parties any sort of access to their successful platforms.
This is a bit of a false equivalency; "Apple's" successful platform is a general-purpose computing device owned by the user while Meta's are hosted services.
These traditionally have different expectations, with game consoles being the exception. Occulus devices seem more like game consoles to me, while iPhones are closer to general-purpose computers with a few weird restrictions. I don't like either, but I see game consoles as less problematic because their use case isn't important.