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Some are, I'm not a man but I have male friends and we're very intimate and close, hug and cuddle each other, express our affection and our emotions openly
Ofc I have had the "bro" type of male friends, where it seems they feel like we can't do that kind of stuff even if we do rly care for each other :(
It's much better in queer and queer-friendly spaces ime
Girlfriends have naked bubble make out pillow fights. Guys do not.
You are going to the wrong parties
Can confirm. There are a few web sites that have video evidence. Google it, and thank me later.
No. I think men and women express intimacy to each other in different ways.
I think it's interesting that you are comparing "men" and "girls" as opposed to either boys and girls or men and women.
No judgement. Just thought that was interesting.
Good thing you're not judging. If it was the passive aggressive criticism it looks like on the surface, it might contribute to this very topic of people feeling safer keeping to themselves than speaking freely and saying the wrong words.
They all mean the same thing basically
They're not the same thing, though. If you use infantilizing language with people of one sex until they're 40, yeah, people are going to notice that and think it's weird. I used to have a ton of unexamined behaviors like that before I worked on it a fair amount, and yeah, I was pretty lonely back when...
Idk, you think this woman's use of the word "girl" is likely contributing much to her lonliness? I mean that'd probably be true if she was a man because people would automatically assume the worst, but in my experience women can usually get away with saying "girl" without anyone caring.
There are no universal truths about the behavior of "men" and "women" (nor other gender identities)
However, I believe men (at least in the US) are often socialized to more emotionally closed off. Like the only emotion allowed is anger. Other emotions are seen as weak or femme (which are viewed as the same)
I think your experience is extremely typical.
Not really. It's been 70/30. I have some male friends and there pretty intimate. Always doing things like slapping my butt and giving me sexual compliments/wolf whistling at me. At first it was pretty awkward then I thought to myself "what's the problem?" There only complimenting you and there not exactly wrongπ.
But now I don't know if there just being friendly or if there flirting with me. I've had women say similar things to me before.
maybe 100+ years ago before gay panic really got going.
I'd wager the opposite. I'd say men hug more now.
Source: am secretly a Highlander
I tell my boys I love them. Kisses on the forehead before we part too.
*their
"there friends" would be like... friends that are somewhere else. As opposed to "here friends", I guess
yes, we're not all incels and taters and fundamentalist wannabe strong men