Asklemmy

Just wait. I'll check with you and find out if you're still "sober" in '25

!Remindme 2 years... (I think they have something like that. Can't remember the exact tag).

I think it's just less well curated content due to fewer users because after some amount of time you get to the posts with a low number of upvotes. Just a scale thing.

That said I kinda prefer it.

I probably spend just as much time on lemmy/kbin as I did on Reddit. The biggest difference is most of my time then was based on consuming content and fishing for any kind of interaction and approval I could. Here I feel like I spend most of my time creating, and interacting with other users who are invested in helping the fediverse grow.

There are definitely less active moments here, but those are the times I usually try to fill in the void with my own content, give someone's community or post a boost so that they see more interaction, and engage in one of the discussions being had in the threads of more active posts.

Plus whenever I'm starved for content, I go over to new, upvote posts as I go, and I usually find something interesting.

I never actually had a Reddit account so there wasn't an opportunity for them to customise a feed to me. That being the case after getting a bumch of random communities subscribed via bot the 'all' feed here seems to largely resemble Reddit for the non-logged in. The only part that's a bit oboxious is the multi-comminity posting where one user sends the same thing to a similar community on mutiple hosts. Hopefully at some point there's a way to create some kind of multi-homed community so they're not so independent of each other.

For me it's the ridiculous amount of alt left/communist comments in EVERY thread. Even blocking the worst offending instances I still get a frankly insane amount of comments from delusional people thinking we should all give up our personal possessions and everyone just magically have access to everything at no cost to anyone.

I never thought Reddit was addictive. I actually spend more time on Lemmy in a day than I did on Reddit. My browsing habits changed though. Reddit is so big I only looked at a few niche subreddits. Lemmy being much smaller I view a much wider range of topics. It's a different and better experience for me.

reddit is driven by primitive monkey brain attraction as shown through popularity.
perhaps subs make the addiction more finely tuned to similarly minded peeps.

lemmy has less than infinite content and a less mainstream non-[purely]hedonistic culture.

if u havent realized:
lemmy tends to be significantly more appealing/valuable to some niches that have strongly established,enthusiastic, talented userbase (such as tech ppl).
it's a minor satisfaction boost but beneficial. if maybe u dont fullheartedly believe in the lemmy mission(free nonprofit decentralized platform), then it seems, additionaly, less satisfying

to build up other unique /c/'s requires: initiative, light work/time, [and usually..] motivation to post.

i personally [tend to..] only post or comment on things im interested in. sometimes thats only linux and android.

when a site like reddit is ranked top site on the inrernet. everyone can be lazy and contribute once a year and thats still more than enough(when u consider scale). there are also a shitton of negatives to that. but they are ignored and swept under the rug.

No bots or people posting the same videos/posts that get 1k+ karma trying to make money by selling accounts.

I spent more time here than on Reddit ಠ_ಠ

The load is spread in different apps though.

this is some really good awareness, i think.. and that other thing is getting worser and worser for some reason..

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