Okay, first of all: Chill, and let me lay out an observation here.

You are very passionate about that topic, maybe a little too much. The way you talk about it is too heated, and gives people the idea that a civil discussion might not be possible.

The fact that you immediately start conspiring about where your downvotes come from doesn't make it any better.

Now, the issues you describe are very much real, and a problem. There are merits and downfalls in each project, each one handles these differently, and it is for us to decide how to react to that.

So, you're saying that as a reaction, I should neither use Graphene nor DivestOS, am I understanding this correctly?

What then? Compromise my privacy by using less optimal systems? Why would I do that?

Doing things out of principle vs doing them out of practical use is something this community is quite aware of, isn't it. Sometimes the decision isn't easy, sometimes it is.