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For me, I often can't be physically attracted to someone until I know and like them as a person. It makes online dating worthless, and porn largely useless. Fortunately, I don't personally feel the lack; I enjoy it when it's there, but don't feel any need to seek it out. But if I did feel I need it, I can certainly empathize with how easy it would be to feel starved for affection. There's also a lot of character-driven adult science fiction/fantasy these days (especially in LitRPG, fanfiction, and Progression Fantasy), for those times when I just do feel the need. Some characterization goes a long way.
There is an online dating app called goodnight for IOS that's focused around voice and audio-based dating, without visuals. I've heard it's accessible with work-arounds, though I don't have direct experience with it myself. Even if you don't find a partner there, maybe just a bit of flirting and getting used to what real people sound like when they're trying to be attractive might be a good reset for you. Also, listen to interviews of voice actresses. They don't sound anything like they do when they're performing. Spending time on websites like Behind The Voice Actors helped me come to terms with how little you can really tell about someone based on voice. As someone born blind, I was way over-estimating how much information (race, physical/body type, personality, etc) I was actually getting from a voice.
@fastfinge @geekgarious There are audio-based dating apps? I wish I knew of any because all the dating apps I'm using are duds. Tinder sucks, bumble sucks, hinge sucks. It seems all they care about is visuals. I've tried everything from spending hours getting the right pictures with my friends help to adding compliments to people's profiles but none of it works and its disheartening because I want to date and its really no secret for those who know me well enough. Being blind while trying to date is a fight and right now, I'm losing badly.
My original post contains a link. However, you're posting from Mastodon instead of getting a Lemmy account, so you can't see it. Nothing I can do about that; sorry. Consider joining Lemmy so you can actually access all the features of the platform.
I think he's using tweesecake; I have no idea what that does with Markdown formatting on Mastodon.
@fastfinge So, I do have an account on that platform but because there's no client that'll make it easier for me to use, that creates problems for me.
The desktop website works fine, though.