Bisexual
This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.
Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.
Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.
At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.
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There could be so many things.
Maybe your friend finds women attractive but doesn't really want to internalize it, but claims the label. I did that when I was young... I was told by many religious adults that I was confused. So I kind of carried that with me until I found my own way... Which includes me saying that vulvas were not attractive. (I most definitely do not think that.)
Maybe she doesn't actually like men at all and is trying to figure out which ones are attractive to her. (I did this when I was young. I tried not to be a lesbian so hard.)
Or she has a certain type of women she likes. She could like em butch but she is mostly around femme women.
Maybe she doesn't have the vocabulary to describe her attraction to women if she is.
Or maybe she has other reasons why she claims bisexuality, like she likes men and NB people.
Maybe she's struggling with her gender identity too, and these thoughts are bleeding into her feelings about her sexuality.
Or she is confused about labels. Or she's just experimenting with labels to see what fits.
It's really hard to guess, and all of the above is wild speculation. (Most would be rude to accuse her of or ask her about... Let her lead any of those conversations if it comes up.) At this point, it's best to accept what she labels herself. Discovering is hard (and she sounds like she is in the thick of it) and gatekeeping makes it harder.
Tysm, makes perfect sense. I haven't brought it up to her but she did mention it in conversation. I'm just trying to understand but I haven't and cannot tell her that she is straight or not.
Sounds like you got the right idea on how to be supportive. You're a good friend to her.