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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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I’m not trying to hate, so please don’t insult me or give rude advice. As a bi girl myself, I’m genuinely just trying to understand and get input from other people here respectfully.

This one girl at my school, Ana, says she’s bi because the topic came up. I told her I was too, and that’s cool and all, but what I don’t understand is that Ana also says she doesn’t really find women attractive. She’d like to be friends with them, she finds them pretty in a platonic way, but she doesn’t want to date them. There is no female character she’d be attracted to, nor a celebrity, nor anyone. Ana says she’s kinda “ehh” on women romantically.

However, Ana is very obviously attracted to men. She often has a new male crush every two weeks or so, and finds a lot of celebrities (such as actors), fictional characters, and boys at school attractive and would definitely date them.

Again, I’m genuinely confused, so if you guys could help me understand, that would be greatly appreciated. I don’t understand why Ana says she’s bi with no gender preference. At first, I could see bi with a male preference, but she told me she straight-up doesn’t see women romantically and finds them “ehh”.

Ana also finds female genitalia gross and doesn't feel sexual attraction towards them. She finds them completely ehh in all aspects, although she called herself a lesbian a few months ago.

I don’t ask her any questions or tell her who she is or isn't attracted to, by the way, she brings them up in conversation.

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[–] con_fig@programming.dev 50 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Honestly, I wouldn't even try and get into it. Who knows why she identifies how she does, just chalk it up as odd and move on.