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Those with parents who hold opposite political views than you, how do you go about disagreeing? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by minorsecond@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be more specific, my parents raised my siblings and me to "respect" them, saying "yes sir, and "no ma'am" to everything they said. Spankings, all of that. Typical super conservative evangelical parents. Before I learned better, I was that way too. I went to college and since then have embraced the left more and more.

They'll say things now and then that are really distasteful politically. Today I made an Instagram post about DeSantis lying about liberal states allowing post-birth abortions and I got several family members railing against me. I'm tired of staying quiet when this happens. I think that, because how my parents raised me, I'm afraid to speak my mind to older family members. Fuck that though.

Has anyone else had this experience? I wonder if therapy would help. I just don't know how to explain it.

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[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I don't argue anymore. You can't logic them out of something they didn't logic themselves into.

My father is too far gone and considered an "intellectual" man. My mom thinks she's "not that smart" (cool, thanks da), but she's become so much more open and accepting as she's gotten older and has shifted a lot of her views to be more progressive. Maybe because she realizes that my father, despite being very intelligent, is also an absolute moron who wrecks all his relationships. They're still together, though.

Therapy can help you cope with the situation, yeah.

My siblings are almost fully split on our views on religion and stuff.

Youngest to oldest: pastor, party girl, anxious wreck withdrawn from society, ex-military, brow-beaten family man, severe mental-illness-ridden mother, literal cult member, golden child/took over family business, ex-Rainbow gathering stereotype, and depressed IT guy who loves drugs, dogs, and the outdoors.

Things get better when you get far away from parents like this. Seriously.

[–] GARlactic@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Holy fucking shit your parents had TEN kids?

Religion is a hell of a drug.

[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago

Yeah, it wasn't great. They didn't believe in birth control and did very much believe that if they had another child, it was God's will & He would provide.

We're all pretty fucked up mentally. Don't love that part.

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