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I kinda like it actually. Disclaimer to go with that though is that I knit and crochet and sew my own clothes so if there's something I can't find in a shop I can make it, and I can also do basic alterations.
High-waisted is life for us big-hipped ladies. Wide-necked boxy-cut layering pieces speak to my casual goth heart. Baggy jeans take me back to my teens and are a welcome relief from the skinny jean tyranny that lasted up until a few years ago. Of all the cool things I've learned how to sew, my absolute favourite is a "potato sack" dress that I cinch in at the waist with a matching belt and go about my day in being comfy af.
Now if we could just get the pocket situation sorted out.
It took me years, but I finally started to appreciate high-waisted jeans after it dawned on me...oh, you can tuck IN the shirt. (I also have wide hips, but most importantly a nickel sensitivity. So getting this layer of fabric between my belly and the top button was a game changer! And allowed for more comfortable sitting haha.)
It's interesting that you mention sewing. I'm not very crafty, but maybe I could find a tailor/seamstress to make the simple kind of summer dress that I find flattering & comfy: a knee-length cylinder of fabric, somewhat form-fitting but not bandage/bodycon-level slinky, with basic straps rather than boho pouf sleeves or fringe or whimsical off-the-shoulder cuts.
P.S. I was also kind of a goth in HS, but less baggy goth and more Shirley Manson/Faith the Vampire Slayer inspired, with a bit of skapunk influence from my peer group. But I'm too lazy to accessorize these days ;) So at home it's 90% athleisure, and in the office it's the traditional business (casual) wardrobe I established ~10 years ago. Only, that's starting to feel too formal, and I'm trying to reclaim an actual sense of style.
Yeah I was more the high effort goth type back in the day but am way too lazy for that now. I got to where you are now, looking at my uninspiring wardrobe full of things you could wear to work, the occasional unobjectionable dress for a night out, and plain jeans and vest tops and I just thought enough is enough.
Literally, as someone who knows nothing about fashion, sat down with my laptop and spent a night searching for the words for different styles so I could articulate my thoughts. Picked things I liked and didn't. Let myself judge based on what felt "me" rather than what felt my age (am nearly 40). Apparently I gravitate to something called "dark bohemian", which does check out but I'd never heard the actual term before!
I've since defined my style goal as "casual witch on a cruise ship" and am rolling with that as my guide for everything that gets made or bought.