The fediverse is not suited at the moment to fixed mindset types.
Personally, I find that refreshing. It reminds me of my earliest interactions with the Internet on BBS. The web for a long while has felt very consumerist; first curated spaces becoming walled gardens and then the subtle shift from web services as products to our attention & data as the Internet's main product. We lost the magical sense of exploration and experimentation that made the early Internet so special. The fediverse is the first instance (pun half-intended) I've come across that speaks to that spirit.
That's a healthy distrust.
I recently watched the bearing of a flushtrim router bit disassemble while routing 2" acrylic and I puckered so hard I could taste what color underpants I was wearing.