lurker2718

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[–] lurker2718@lemmings.world 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

This post and thread gives me (back) so much hope. I always hoped for something like described here. But I never came anywhere close and so I have lost the hope over time. I was thinking in the direction of "I just want someone to share my life with. It will work out to be ok somehow." But some recent events and post like this give me back the hope to find a the person I really want to share time with. It also brings me the motivation to work on myself, so to be more like I would like to be. Thanks you all.

[–] lurker2718@lemmings.world 1 points 5 months ago

No, to orbit the earth at an height of let's say 1000 km you would need a speed of around 7km/s. If you go faster, you don't follow an circular orbit. Wirh around 11km/s you would be so fast to leave the gravity well of earth. The particles in those colliders are almost moving at the speed of light. To be exact, they move only 3.1m/s slower than the speed of light, so almost 300000km/s. They would fly almost straight and would be barely influenced by the gravity well.

[–] lurker2718@lemmings.world 2 points 7 months ago

This wasn't the point as i read, the question was about confidence. And this has little to do with how "pretty" you are. Your confidence is only in your mind. Sure if others think of you as ugly, it's harder to gain confidence. But I think especially a lot of girls have confidence issues with their appearance despite looking "good".

[–] lurker2718@lemmings.world 2 points 11 months ago

I cannot recommend mindfulness enough, as already suggested by many others in this thread.

I think, you said you are already in therapy? In this case, I would definitely talk with your therapist about this and things you want to adopt beforehand. If you want a simple concrete tip, you could try the "mindfulness coach" by the US department of veteran affairs. I liked it a lot and the apps from there get good privacy recommendations from mozilla.

I am a bit suprised by the many people recommending to just stop giving fucks. Is this what you really want? Or do you just want avoid the emotions of taking control?

[–] lurker2718@lemmings.world 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

You do not need to be that hard to yourself when your feeling "wrong". Yes it is probably better for yourself if you don't overreact. However you cannot really cotntrol your feelings. So it is still better to accept your anger. First, as you said, it drives up the frustration, because now you are also worried about your feelings. And second your original emotion wants to be "noticed". I read and experienced a few times myself, the "wrong" emotion disappears often quickly when you accept it. It is an essential concept of mindfulness, to accept your emotions.

Edit: As far as i understand it and experienced it, saying to yourself "no i shouldn't be angry about this" won't change your thinking

[–] lurker2718@lemmings.world 4 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Don't be so pessimistic about it, i thought as you do. However, if you meet a person fitting to you, it is of no importance that you have no experience. I had my first date recently, probably ten years later than most. While i was embarrassed, it was no problem for her and she was very considerate to me.