Shut the fuck up about the woes with your ex.
Oh god, I can't tell you how many dates I've been on where the other person goes on and on about their ex. I give them 10 minutes to vent. If they keep talking about it, I find an excuse to cut things short, then let them know that I "didn't feel a connection, but good luck!."
That the older you get, the easier it is to date if you're in good shape and you know how to listen.
So don't think it's all over for you just because dating may be difficult right now.
When I was in my 20's and 30's, I was in decent shape, but pretty average looking. But at that age there are a LOT of people in decent shape who are above average looking. So lots of competition.
Hit my 40's, still in pretty good shape. Hair is a mix of gray and dark. Suddenly 30-year old women are asking me out.
I haven't changed my attitude. Haven't changed my income. Haven't changed my personality. Haven't changed my location.
I'm in my 50's now, and I get laid more than ever. I'm in an open relationship with my current GF. She just has to "approve" of the girls I date.
I 100 percent think that it's because most people in my age-range are fat as fuck, and unhealthy.
Some women like older guys for stability (I'm not racing cars or going to bars every fucking night, I'm easy to reach, like to chill, etc), and since I'm in shape, I'm suddenly popular.
And I'm not even in THAT great of shape: https://sh.itjust.works/post/27861648
Yeah, I work out and stay lean, but when I'm wearing a shirt, you don't look at me and go, "wow, that dude works out!" It's really that I'm not overweight, so that sets me apart.
This isn't a humble brag. I legit have a face like a foot: i.e. not that great looking, but functional.
It comes down to just that I'm not fat, have stability, own a house, and I'm not a serial killer. That's fucking it.
So depending on your age, just hang in there. It gets easier.
And for more immediate tips: Listen, and know how to be comfortable with small talk. Also makes the rest of your social life easier too.
And Trump would have won this time around, even if Jill Stein wouldn't have ran. That's how big his margin was. Dude, he won electoral AND popular vote.
You all need to take a look at yourselves and realize why you lost so bad. It sure as fuck wasn't because of Jill Stein. lol
You should def practice the "grow your own food" thing first. I have a huge backyard, and I have been trying grow my own food, so far I suck at it. I'll keep trying tho! But it is def not as easy as I thought it would be.
Yep, pretty much the game I played. You're doing it right.
You'll be fine. You got this, brother!
As long as Trump doesn't decide to suddenly end pension plans! I mean, i don't really think that will happen, but he's so batshit crazy, who knows. So I figure I should take the jump now and maybe any law changes that would happen would go towards people who aren't collecting the pension yet.
My pension plan is for state workers. So we can retire at 55 if we have at least 20 years service in. I turned 55 this year, and hit my 20th year this year.
Of course, the longer I keep working, the bigger my pension would be. I took my current job with the plan to work for 3 more years, then retire.
And I like my current job enough, but every single morning after I turned 55, when I wake up, I think to myself, "Shit if I were retired, I wouldn't have to go anywhere."
My job is a 10-minute walk away. So I really have no right to bitch about it at all. But just "having" to be somewhere, gets on my nerves so much now! lol
So since I don't owe anybody shit, and I can live off of potatoes and beans, I'll get by just fine. I don't give a shit what people think of me, so no keeping up appearances. That right there, makes my lifestyle sustainable on low income.
That's awesome, it seems really far away, but trust me, it goes by quick. I'm 55 and I retire in a few months. And I remember thinking it seemed so far away. And fuck, now I'm here. Crazy.
Yep! I retire in 5 months. 55 years old. With full pension.
My house is paid off and I have no debt. Since I have no bills, my pension will cover my needs just fine. It's not a huge pension or anything, but I've worked for my state for most of my adult life, and whittled down my bills to almost nothing. So I'll get by just fine.
I plan to just spend my time in retirement doing exactly what I want. I've recently started a local branch of my favorite socialist party, so I'll devote more time to that.
Plus, I'll do a lot of writing, a lot of Lemmy posting, garden more so I can grow most of my meals, and doing DIY solar projects so that I can cut back on my bills even farther. Because fuck the capitalist power infrastructure in my state. My state's BS laws won't let me go completely off-grid while here in the city, but I plan on reducing how much I have to pay as far down as I can go
This.