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Won't say it.. Won't say it.. ZFS!! Oops.

I realize this is a rant but you coulda included hardware details.

I'm gonna contrast your experience with about 300 or so installs I did in the last couple of years, all on btrfs, 90% fedora, 9% ubuntu and the rest debian and mint and other stragglers, nothing but the cheapest and trashiest SSDs money can buy, the users are predominantly linux illiterate. I also run all my stuff (5 workstations and laptops) exclusively on btrfs and have so for 5+ years. not one of those manifested anything close to what you're describing.

so I hope the people that get your recommendations also take into consideration your sample size.

could be due to some bad block or read failure from the hdd (it is supposedly brand new, but i guess it could be busted)

I'd suspect the controller or cable first.

shit like this never happens to me on extfs, even if the hdd is literally dying

You say that as if it's a good thing. If you HDD is "literally dying", you want the filesystem to fail safe to make you (and applications) aware and not continue as if nothing happened. extfs doesn't fail here because it cannot even detect that something is wrong.

btrfs has its own share of bugs but, in theory, this is actually a feature.

i have an ext4 and an ufs partition in the same hdd without any issues.

Not any issue that you know of. For all extfs (and, by extension, you) knows, the disk/cable/controller/whatever could have mangled your most precious files and it would be none the wiser; happily passing mangled data to applications.

You have backups of course (right?), so that's not an issue you might say but if the filesystem isn't integer, that can permeate to your backups because the backup tool reading those files is none the wiser too; it relies on the filesystem to return the correct data. If you don't manually verify each and every file on a higher level (e.g. manual inspection or hashing) and prune old backups, this has potential for actual data loss.

If your hardware isn't handling the storage of data as it should, you want to know.

even if we suppose this is the hardware's fault and not btrfs's, should a file system be a little bit more resilient than that? at this rate, i feel like a cosmic ray could set off a btrfs corruption.

While the behaviour upon encountering an issue is in theory correct, btrfs is quite fragile. Hardware issues shouldn't happen but when they happen, you're quite doomed because btrfs doesn't have the option to continue despite the integrity of a part of it being compromised.
btrfs-restore disables btrfs' integrity; emulating extfs's failure mode but it's only for extracting files from the raw disks, not for continuing to use it as a filesystem.

I don't know enough about btrfs to know whether this is feasible but perhaps it could be made a bit more log-structured such that old data is overwritten first which would allow you to simply roll back the filesystem state to a wide range of previous generations, of which some are hopefully not corrupted. You'd then discard the newer generations which would allow you to keep using the filesystem.
You'd risk losing data that was written since that generation of course but that's often a much lesser evil. This isn't applicable to all kinds of corruption because older generations can become corrupted retroactively of course but at least a good amount of them I suspect.

I've had some issues with btrfs. I have a Fedora 41 box where the 1TB drive just magically lost 300+GB of capacity that shows up in use but there is nothing using it, and I used to have a 39/40 box where booting would take like 3+ mins that was all btrfs being unhappy with the primary drive on initial mount. Snapshots and the duplicate stuff are pretty killer features, though...