Any idea if that's something I can do on slrpnk.net? I'm on mobile right now, and not seeing an option.
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You might have to login on desktop, I'm not familiar with solar punk (and if people mention their instance doesnt allow name changes i'll make a tally of instances that dont and are exempt) but if you go to your settings usually it will have an editable text box for your display name
it doesn't want to save my changes 🤔
There is a limit to how long usernames/nicknames can be on lemmy. You might have to only do like NOOBMASTER (she) or some shorter nickname for it to let you save it.
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I just did (might take some time to propagate)
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I understand the sentiment and would respect the decision, even if I don't agree, but there are problems of consistency. You say people should make new accounts if necessary to explore their trans identity, but you'll allow instance wide exemptions.
It would be nice if proper support for pronouns was added in the first place, but that's also clearly not going to become a priority unless people openly demand it, so here we are with an inconsistent compromise.
Pretty much every IRL trans space I've ever been in has started with name + pronouns, it's not a big ask and it normalizes being respectful of other people.
Sorry, I didn't want to make a bad faith argument, but I think it's necessary to clarify the issue.
The exemption will allow bigots from those instances to still have access and the benefit of doubt. People who might have valid reasons to not disclose openly their position will have to create a new account.
If pronouns are a safety measure, there's a big flaw in making exemptions. Will the users know the people they are talking are not marked because they can't be.
Just a thought. Maybe make it a required opener or signature.
(he / him / queer)
I do like the idea of mandating including pronouns in your first post in a thread if your instance doesn't support them, rather than an exemption
I don't really consider requiring pronouns to be a safety measure, more of a vibes check.
Frankly considering how normalized being transphobic on main is, I like the idea of pushing people to being supportive of trans people on main.
My username says it already. I wish everyone the best.
Suggestions for when it becomes too long? Would ♂ work? I have 4 extra characters to work with.
With the standard length being 24 characters " [he/him]" would reduce it to 15 characters, " [she/her]" to 14 and " [they/them]" to 12 characters, which is really short for a username imo.
Lemm.ee apparently has it further reduced to 20.
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