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Okay, this is a strange question. There are a lot of moving parts involved in adoption which is, in my experience, universally accepted as noble, regardless of their political leaning and ethical eating choices. As a "so far left ya get your guns back" leftist and vegan, I presume that I fall into this category lol. There are some pretty glaring barriers to adoption for me: most adoption agencies are extremely selective, expensive and run by (mostly Christian groups.) Yes, there are children in foster care that you could potentially be able to adopt eventually. But there's no certainty for anyone because the want to "reunite" biological families. But if you're a gay witch, get fucked. Anecdotally, the people that I know that have adopted are religious nut jobs who treat their adopted children like domestic slaves while spoiling their "real" (their words, not mine ๐คฎ) kids.
It's more of a demographic/reception question than anything else. To everyone's credit, I was surprised to learn a few things from the replies too. Your description sounds Western American/Canadian coming from someone in a place where spiritual-based agencies feel foreign (here their only god at the moment is money; your regional system would sadly be an upgrade), this being in contrast to many who seemed anti-preferential to it, and Lemmy was definitely the place to ask.
That's fair, it's kind of a niche group but lemmy would be the place to find us vegan/leftist/nerds lol. You were right about my description, American currently on the East Coast. I would love if we could upgrade to a completely secular system that includes psychological/emotional evaluation as well as financial application as well but I don't see it happening anytime soon. I would love to adopt, but seeing as I'm unwilling to conform to Christian/heteronormativity standards I doubt I would get approved. It's maybe a point of contention, which might be why I've never brought it up. I'm a damn good mom, but I'm not a "Republican Mother."