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This is how I quit smoking. Not comparing the two but you need to not be around it, if you are around it admit you are NOT in control and have a trusted friend help you (easier to not be around it).
Everyone says replace it with something healthy. No, replace with absolute hatred and loathing.
People underestimate how powerful anger yoked to the proper cause can be.
"Anger is a gift." - Rage Against the Machine
Something something dark side...
I know you're meme-ing, but bear with me.
Media tends to present things as black-and-white because it makes for an easier story to digest. The occasional downside is that people take in the media without adequately critiquing it or pulling it apart and thinking about it. So you get your "something something dark side", or other people operating on advice about anger that they got from children's shows when they were 5.
Anger...yoked to the PROPER cause...is powerful. It can be useful as all hell.
Waking up my anger is how I got myself out of an abusive home--it gave me the ability to act instead of just staying there frozen. So, being motivated by my anger got me out of the situation, which bettered my entire life.
Anger is also how I broke the cycle of abuse, funnily enough. I got so angry that they DIDN'T break the cycle for my sake that I dove head-first into self-improvement to figure out how not to repeat it myself. Anger at them being stupid failures is how I drove myself to be better.
Sure, you can think of anger as something that only ever is destructive--but in the real world, that's not true. It's a kid's tale. You can yoke the motivating factor of white-hot anger to get you out of shitty situations or to improve yourself...and you won't actually get black veins crawling over your skin and red glowing eyes.
Hi, I was joking, you are correct, but in an earlier comment I agreed with the person and said anger was how I quit smoking.
I don't want to make it seem like it's on the same level as what you have dealt with and I really feel like you seem like a strong person that has been through something that can break you.
Again, I was just goofing around, and basically agree with what you said here, despite my attempt at levity.