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So to make it clear while im still a guy but I've been feeling like there is a lesser but present amount of girl in me. I am currently using both he him and she her I'm confused. Like I'm a boy but I'm also kinda girl idk

I know I haven't been posting here much but I'd like an answer. If anyone wants to use my posts and stuff I have a lot of my questioning on record in my masto

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[–] pretzel@beehaw.org 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I don't want to sound facile or diminish anything, but does it matter? Like gender is such a societal construct. Just be you. Maybe there isn't guy or girl at all. You are just a person with interests and feeling and desires and so long as you are true to them and don't let haters or the implied roles of society/family tell you what you should do, just be content.

Maybe it's just me, but I try not to think of things as boy/girl. When I raise my family I try not to let them think of things through that lens either.

What do you find that you need to put labels on? Maybe I'm naive, and it's relevant and helpful and my life has been so easy that I've glided through without having to worry. But I think labelling yourself is just unconstructive!

[–] sleepybisexual@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I just find labels help explain stuff

[–] superkret@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

OK, but the labels boy and girl seem insufficient to explain what you feel.

[–] darkregn@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago

Non-binary exists, just mentioning that “boy” and “girl” aren’t the only labels.

[–] sleepybisexual@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah I think I might actualle be a demiboy, part guy part nonbinary. For some reason I don't feel like a girl today

[–] darkregn@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah labels also help me, esp since it makes it easier to find people who feel a similar way.

[–] chloyster@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

I understand why people like to have labels in some situations. I think it can help people feel not alone in their situation. That being said, I agree. Labels are truly just a construct. If it works for you, great! If not, then don't have one! Whatever makes the individual most comfortable and happy with themselves