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That the older you get, the easier it is to date if you're in good shape and you know how to listen.
So don't think it's all over for you just because dating may be difficult right now.
When I was in my 20's and 30's, I was in decent shape, but pretty average looking. But at that age there are a LOT of people in decent shape who are above average looking. So lots of competition.
Hit my 40's, still in pretty good shape. Hair is a mix of gray and dark. Suddenly 30-year old women are asking me out.
I haven't changed my attitude. Haven't changed my income. Haven't changed my personality. Haven't changed my location.
I'm in my 50's now, and I get laid more than ever. I'm in an open relationship with my current GF. She just has to "approve" of the girls I date.
I 100 percent think that it's because most people in my age-range are fat as fuck, and unhealthy.
Some women like older guys for stability (I'm not racing cars or going to bars every fucking night, I'm easy to reach, like to chill, etc), and since I'm in shape, I'm suddenly popular.
And I'm not even in THAT great of shape: https://sh.itjust.works/post/27861648
Yeah, I work out and stay lean, but when I'm wearing a shirt, you don't look at me and go, "wow, that dude works out!" It's really that I'm not overweight, so that sets me apart.
This isn't a humble brag. I legit have a face like a foot: i.e. not that great looking, but functional.
It comes down to just that I'm not fat, have stability, own a house, and I'm not a serial killer. That's fucking it.
So depending on your age, just hang in there. It gets easier.
And for more immediate tips: Listen, and know how to be comfortable with small talk. Also makes the rest of your social life easier too.