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Lemmings living in red states, how’re you doing? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 week ago by Gullible@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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[–] eccentric@lemm.ee 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

She refuses to let me tell her why I can barely function. She refuses to let me describe what I'm going through. She says she "can't handle it", that "it's not a top priority right now", that she's "trying to understand" why I've made this "choice" while also telling me things like "but I like you the way you are" and rejecting any information I send to her because she'd rather consult her friends that she "trusts more".

She starts to have a panic attack whenever I try to talk to her about it and God forbid I tell her that she made a mistake because then I obviously hate her guts and want her to die. She's literally accused me of that.

Those paragraphs reminded me of the !raisedbynarcissists@lemmy.ml community.

[–] Daze@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

Absolutely. It’s not about the transition at all, she just can’t stomach the idea of losing an inkling of control.