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Where does porn addiction awareness stop and conservatism begins? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by vfreire85@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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~~Pretty straightforward: where does the awareness that porn wrecks your mind and sexuality stops and where does simply conservatism towards sexuality begins (even in cases akin to bolshe morality)?~~

EDIT: okay, better clarifying it - i came across some video from some youtuber claiming that pornography is evil, period. and that there are things such as "metapornography", which could apply to someone in instagram posting videos of themselves in scant dressing and claiming likes of it. and that no-fap and anti-masturbation movements are good things.

i was really confused about that since that person came from apparently a progressive-yet-moralistic background. but talking to other people to see if some of my impressions checked, it came to my mind that it was a heavily directed video intended to attract left-leaning people to a conservative agenda. my bad.

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[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 32 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

When you stop having a realistic view of porn. If you are using it as a simple pleasure and exploring sexual expression, there's no issue.

If you see you are using it too much, and is causing you problems, you may need to be aware that you are developing an addiction like any other.

If you start purposefully avoiding it even at the cost of your own comfort and stress relief, saying things like "porn wrecks your mind and sexuality", you are entering the current conservative, frustrating young people to manipulate them territory.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 16 points 1 week ago

Like any vice honestly. It can be fun and enjoyable. Too much and then you need to get some help and it will affect you. Forcing it out of your life, however, is not actually dealing with your problems but rather just hiding from them. Finding the balance is the goal.

A true recovered alcoholic isn't someone who demands his friends stop drinking when they are around him. That's someone who is trying to hide from it. A true recovered alcoholic is someone who can see their friends enjoy a drink and say "no thanks" when asked.