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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 weeks ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[–] juliebean@lemm.ee 2 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

it kind of is, as far as i can tell, or at least it's adjacent, though the term actually predates modern asexual nomenclature, and the split-attraction model, which didn't really take off until the internet did. 'bambi lesbian' has merely had a resurgence in recent years because it sounds cute as hell.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

It also seems to be additional evidence that Rule 34 predates the internet.

[–] juliebean@lemm.ee 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

i don't see the relation to rule 34

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Just the idea of sexualizing nonsexual things for no reason and/or it's funny.

[–] juliebean@lemm.ee 1 points 4 weeks ago

All right, then. Keep your secrets.