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Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they'd be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It's a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don't appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn't purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I'm not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I'd see what y'alls opinion on the matter is.

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[–] frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I've had people flip out at me on Lemmy for 'misgendering' it's so ridiculous.

Like we don't know if it's a man or woman. It's the internet, yknow?

[–] TheOubliette@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If you don't know then why are you using gendered pronouns for them?

[–] frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

I actually wasn't but that's a different story

[–] x00z@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

And when you speak up about how useless all of this is your comment might get removed :O

[–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 1 month ago

I recommend sticking to gender nonspecific instead of defaulting to masculine.

[–] BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works -5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

God I hate it when people call animals "they". Like "the dog doesn’t like their squeaky toy" - it’s a dog! Call it "it"! "The dog doesn’t like its squeaky toy"

[–] frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 month ago

If they say "the goose doesn't like his ball" that is misgandering.

[–] 8osm3rka@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

To be fair, some languages outside of English reserve "it" (or the equivalent 3rd person neuter pronoun) for "non-living" things. For people whose native language is one of those languages, calling an animal "it" may seem a bit too harsh even while speaking English.

[–] N0x0n@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

It don't like your comment...

"The dog likes his squeaky toy."

Like everyone is fighting over gender in human race, I would like that you finally understand that dogs/cats/cows even the squirrel in your garden... Those are sentient living beings... Stop treating them like just a fucking object !

[–] BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

But even in English - if you are completely gender neutral - "the human does not like its work in the office" is the same.

[–] GarbageShootAlt2@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago

That is simply incorrect English, words have more referents than gender. Traditionally "it" is reserved for non-human things of all types, but definitely does not ever apply to a human, and calling someone an "it" without it first being requested by them is near-universally recognized as a dehumanizing insult.

[–] N0x0n@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Hummm... Maybe I don't get all the grammatical rules in English, but it's really disheartening to treat living beings as objects.

As I remember It is an article for objects and I would never consider my dog as an non-living object. He's way more "human" than most people that I have encountered in my life.