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Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they'd be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It's a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don't appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn't purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I'm not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I'd see what y'alls opinion on the matter is.

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[–] ClassifiedPancake@discuss.tchncs.de 43 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I don’t think it’s necessary to check every profile for potential pitfalls when interacting with them. But honestly, in this case there is an obvious transgender flag in the profile name that should make you at least question your first assumption.

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Do trans men have a different flag?

[–] Edie@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I don't think there is. The transgender flag is for anyone that is trans. There are transfemme and transmasc specific flags (though they aren't in Unicode so they can't be used like I do the trans flag). Do note that transfemme / -masc does not mean transgender woman and man, they describe how one would like to present and/or express themselves.

[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol -3 points 1 month ago (5 children)

What percentage of the populace do you think knows what the transgender flag looks like? :|

[–] blakeus12@hexbear.net 39 points 1 month ago (1 children)

is this ragebait or something

[–] REgon@hexbear.net 26 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Most of it, but that has nothing to do with you and is just a meagre deflection. The right response would have been "whoops my bad, didn't notice that, I'll do better next time" or a variation thereof.
Shifting the discussion as you are trying to do is just poor behaviour that makes your alleged genuine questions seem much less so. Sort of how like when I misgender someone I don't go and make a big fuss about it, dig my heels in and try to start a discussion about morality or expectations. I correct my mistake and thank the person for informing me of it. It's not a big deal unless you make it one, which you've done

well if you didn't know now you do and can avoid this kind of interaction again if your so worried about it

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 4 points 1 month ago

The online percentage.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol -1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Globally? Dawg... how many countries in Asia and Africa is gay marriage even legal in, let alone some semblance and awareness of transgenderism.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Not globally, but on lemmy. I assumed that’s what you meant.