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A lot of the things we do on a daily or weekly basis have ways of doing them that can either be private or communal, some of these which we do not think to consider as having that characteristic.

For example, bathing in the Roman Empire used to be communal, but then Rome fell and citizens in the splinter countries began taking baths privately.

Receiving mail is another example. There are countries which don't have mailboxes and everyone gets their mail at the post office in the PO boxes. It was the United States which pioneered the idea of the modern mail system, which is why we associate it as a private act.

There are activities as well which don't have any history as jumping between one or the other that might benefit from it, for example I think towns might benefit if internet was free and freely accessible but only at the local library.

What's a non-communal aspect of life you think should be communal?

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[โ€“] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone -3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I enjoy cooking; nothing takes the joy out of cooking quite like cooking for others.

[โ€“] voracitude@lemmy.world 28 points 1 month ago (2 children)

That's odd; I only enjoy cooking when I'm cooking for others. If it's just me, I don't give a fuck; pb&j, or I'll order, or Soylent... Or I just don't eat, much easier.

[โ€“] Zahille7@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm with you. I'm perfectly content making myself ramen or some pasta or even just a bowl of cereal and toast.

But if I'm cooking for people, I'm actually putting in effort, dammit.

[โ€“] voracitude@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Exactly! I can cook, I just choose not to most of the time haha!

[โ€“] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

That's fine; for me it's more or less meditative to cook for myself. 3 years of food service was enough.

I'm also fat so I can make things exactly to my personal tastes(awesome) and as much as I want (less awesome if not outright dangerous)

And if i feel creative the only one dealing with the consequences is me

[โ€“] voracitude@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Ah, I've never worked food service (which I view as privilege; it sounds like it would be very hard for me as I struggle with sensory overload and emotional overwhelm, even in less busy and stressful environments) so maybe that has something to do with it.

I hear you on the creativity; while I was still young and learning, my ex-wife did refuse to eat my cooking after the second recipe I "modified" "creatively". But really there was just too much lemon in the lemon chicken, and it's not like it was mostly lemon. Just very lemony ๐Ÿ˜‚