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Simple question: Are you a nice person? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 5 months ago by Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Sure, "nice" needs some definition.

But that's your call. I'm asking you if you are a nice person.

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[–] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

No.. In my defence...

“Nice people made the best Nazis. My mom grew up next to them. They got along, refused to make waves, looked the other way when things got ugly and focused on happier things than “politics.” They were lovely people who turned their heads as their neighbors were dragged away. You know who weren’t nice people? Resisters.”– Naomi Shulman

[–] CoggyMcFee@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago

I think this is where the specific definition of “nice” is crucial. I think it’s very possible to still be “nice” while also being confrontational or standing up for things, and in fact, doing it nicely but without backing down can sometimes be extremely effective.

I know the “nice” you are referring to, where someone uses it as a shield for uncaring, selfish behavior. I’d of course rather have someone who isn’t so “nice” who earnestly tries to do the right thing than that kind of nice.