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What happened to "You're welcome!" as a response to "Thank You"? It's not even included in the canned answers on an apple watch. Have we as a society abandoned it? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I hear "No problem" far more often.

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[–] Mongostein@lemmy.ca 21 points 6 months ago (5 children)

I think we collectively decided that “you’re welcome” doesn’t make sense. Welcome to what??

[–] acastcandream@beehaw.org 22 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

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[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Implying that it was an effort, but you are welcome to it. Whereas “no problem” denotes that the effort is was not a problem for me to do. I use them interchangeably - “you’re welcome” as a response to a complement, or something where there was moderate effort put into the task; “no problem” when the task was low effort (“Thanks for responding to that email so quickly”) or I feel my effort was obliged (helping pick up after a meeting).

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Actually “no problem” implies that the thing would normally be a problem, but that you are negating that.

It’s like saying “No visible bruising”. There’s the implication something happened that might have caused bruising.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Disagree, no problem is saying that what you are thanking me for was not a problem for me to do.

Honestly, I think this perception is the disconnect between millennials thinking it’s better and boomers thinking it’s rude - two different perspectives of what it means.

Also, don’t ackchyually me on an opinion.

[–] artichokecustard@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago

you're whale cum

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 9 points 6 months ago

Welcome to what??

Isn’t that obvious? You’re welcome to the thing you received. The thing you are thanking them for.

[–] lanolinoil@lemmy.world 8 points 6 months ago

to impose on me duh

[–] ettyblatant@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Maybe it's "you are welcome (to ask me for help/favors, as I am neutral to the task. I might even enjoy it.)"

And "it's not a problem (for me to do what you asked me to do; we have now both acknowledged that I have done something to help you that was not organic to me, but now we can move past it with no further conversation.)"

I bet "no problem" to some people is like seeing someone wear a T-shirt to church. They'd really prefer it if you would put on a suit and tie, even though the purpose of both are the same (cover my body when away from home because that is our current social agreement), because a T-shirt is disrespectful.

Also everyone sucks, it is a problem, and you are not welcome.